How to get your life back in balance

It’s that time of year again. A new year. However you feel about resolutions, fresh starts, or initiatives like Dry January, this season often brings a natural pause. Daily routines soften, even briefly, and that space can invite reflection on the year we’ve just lived.

I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting myself. In previous years, I worked as a therapist alongside my NHS role. Over the past year, I made the shift to working as a full-time therapist. It’s a role I genuinely love. And yet, as the year progressed, I began to notice that something wasn’t quite right. My life felt out of balance.

Loving your work doesn’t protect you from becoming overwhelmed. In fact, sometimes it can make it harder to notice when things are tipping too far in one direction. I realised that if I wanted to continue enjoying my work and showing up as the therapist I want to be, I needed to listen more closely to what I needed. That meant finding a new way forward and allowing balance back in.

What does balance mean to you? Does your life feel steady, or does it feel like you’re constantly juggling? Many people describe feeling as though they’re carrying too much, as if one dropped ball could cause everything else to come crashing down. If that resonates, you’re not alone.

Life is full of responsibilities. Work, family, relationships, social commitments, and our own needs all compete for attention. Balance may never be perfect, especially when life throws the unexpected into our paths. But as Jana Kingsford reminds us, “Balance is not something you find, it’s something you create.” Sometimes that creation happens through small, intentional shifts rather than big life changes.

I’ve been thinking about some gentle strategies that can help support change when life feels out of kilter.

Self-care is one of them. This isn’t laziness or avoidance. It’s essential. Taking care of yourself allows you to keep juggling the other balls without burning out. When self-care disappears, everything else becomes harder to manage.

Maintaining connection is another important piece. Making time for the relationships that matter helps us feel grounded and supported. Yet connection is often the first thing to fall by the wayside when life gets busy. Over time, this can increase feelings of isolation and disconnection, even when we’re surrounded by people.

Learning not to overcommit has been a big one for me. You are allowed to say no, at work and at home. Before agreeing to something, it can help to pause and ask yourself, ‘Do I have the space for this right now?’ If that feels difficult, it’s okay to say, ‘Let me think about it and get back to you’. Giving yourself that breathing space allows you to check in with what you actually need. This is something I’ve had to work on myself, and I know how uncomfortable it can feel at first.

Letting go of perfectionism can also bring a sense of relief. You don’t have to be perfect, and not everything has to be done perfectly. Sometimes “good enough” truly is enough, even if that takes time to accept.

Boundaries play a vital role too. When you’re not at work, you’re not at work. We live in a 24-hour world fuelled by emails and messages, but that doesn’t mean we have to be available all the time. As Betsy Jacobson puts it, “Balance is not better time management, but better boundary management.” You do not have to respond to a work email at 11pm. It can wait.

Finally, noticing the small positives in each day can quietly shift how life feels. Ten minutes to enjoy your morning coffee. Watching a sunset. A moment of calm between tasks. Whatever it is that makes you feel warm inside, those moments matter.

Listening to what you need isn’t selfish. It’s necessary. And if you’re noticing that your life feels out of balance, therapy can offer a space to pause and explore that safely. It’s a place to reflect on what’s been weighing you down, reconnect with what matters to you, and begin making changes at a pace that feels manageable.

You don’t have to have everything figured out before reaching out. Sometimes, simply having the space to be heard is the first step towards restoring balance.